The Thrill of the Hunt

Shopping For Style and So Much More

Women love to shop. We enjoy the company and the social aspect with friends. It’s sometimes a casual stroll through the mall, or on a mission to find that special something for the right occasion. We hope to find something to buy as we go from store to store touching, looking, smelling, and taking in all the sights and sounds. I love the feeling of finding that great shirt, skirt, dress, or something new to make me feel good as I walk through that room. There’s always that accessory making the entire outfit complete to accent your personality or fashion flair.

Finding a bargain is always best. TjMaxx and Marshalls make for a fun adventure to shop and offers the thrill of the hunt to finding that right fit at the right price. Finding the right man or woman to share a life together can be similar to searching for that right fit. However, it’s something we can’t buy to earn one’s affection and attention.

Women and men may seek one another for comfort, company, a connection, communication, companionship, chemistry and more. We casually date in hopes to find it. It’s scary to see the similarities of the thrill of shopping for clothes to complement your wardrobe and the thrill of searching for that special someone. We may not need it, but we just WANT IT! What do we really want to feel satisfied? Do the clothes we wear add to our confidence to believe in who we are and what we can offer? The models in magazines and the images in the media could make some feel insecure. Perhaps, it’s the marketing that inspires us to look the best we can be. Most of us want the companionship and closeness with a person that can bring out the best.

We discover the person; a special woman or a man that recognizes our distinct attributes to make us feel we are part of the same thread. We respect and learn to adore another person that can appreciate our entire ensemble and the accents we offer with our personality. It’s how we dress to express and impress showing off our casual-side, conservative,and sporty style.  As we walk down the runway of life, it’s the right guy or gal that can appreciate all our numerous looks.

Men love their fast cars, clothes, toys and technology gadgets. Most of all, it’s having fun to show them off to their friends. Most men hate to shop, but think they know what they want. It’s not until someone else blurts out, “What were you thinking?!“

Clothes don’t make the man (or a woman), nor do their gadgets, cars, or something else. As for some men, the thrill of the hunt might be the chase to finding the next female, a new toy, or something more. It could be a confidence boost for certain men that want to win the prize and for others to know they will always be adored. A man, or a woman might have it all, but could always be in search for something more. As for some women, the thrill of the hunt might be the chase to find that next Chanel bargain. Despite the fact, we probably have Gucci, Louis Vuitton, or Christian Dior as our collection of fashionable designer men.

Does marketing cause us to feel we are missing out on something that plays on our fears of inadequacy? One must feel secure. It’s not until we lose someone special, or review certain items in our closet to reflect on its importance and value. We look back on the good memories and either decide to hold onto it, or discard it.

The Thrill of the Hunt and the Final Celebration

There are some women that are looking to show off a man as an accessory, as there are men that seek the same to feel good in the company of a woman. It’s all in how you carry yourself when you are with a man or a woman and letting your confidence shine from within. Don’t make someone your life, but let one complement it. Be proud to have him or her by your side. Don’t let the clothes make the man, but wear them with pride.

There is the thrill of the hunt for finding clothes, fast cars and meeting that next girl or guy. There is a big difference between the two. Love isn’t something you find on the shelf, but let it find you and you’ll be surprised! One can’t play games once feelings are established, but rather be genuine and honest. Be yourself. Express yourself and don’t compromise your happiness. It’s not about adding a new look or outfit, but rather finding something or someone who makes you feel comfortable, confident and ready to put your best foot forward. Don’t follow trends with style and search to fit in with something, or someone who doesn’t flatter you best. It can be frustrating until you find it.

Sometimes spending more for that something extra special is worth a little more time and consideration. Part of finding that right man, or woman is giving much thought to the decision. It’s not something you can buy, but rather a special relationship is something you earn with someone gaining the full respect, admiration and care for that other person. It’s about finding the right one that fits, a diamond in the rough to add to that finger, a special person to hold onto a lifetime and share the colorful moments together.

Text Me, Facebook Me, Email Me: He’s Just Not That Into You

My friends and I just saw the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You.” A hilarious flick that pokes fun at how technology is used, or isn’t used, to make a connection with that special someone.

You rush to check your email, you make a point to check your Facebook page, you text, wait for a text, and if you are lucky enough a phone call.

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

Admit it, it’s not just gals that are doing this, but men are too. When did this happen that we are at the mercy of technology to influence our lives and for some to feel valuable. It’s the state of this crazy new technological world we live in.

No email…No text…Oh no! Yet, the girl or gal next to me has enough to create a novel. No posts written to your wall on Facebook for at least a week…Does anyone love me?

What is this world coming to? I had actually banned text for many months until people asked me, “Did you get my text?” Of course not, but I caved in to sign-up because I would have lost out on some important messages. Drew Barrymore said it best as the character of Mary explains to her friend the new society we live in. “He emailed me, text me, and My-Spaced me and now you have to check all these different portals of technology…it’s exhausting!”

Why are we taking all this time invested in the virtual world when we should be investing it in the real world to meet the true gentlemen. There is a new kind of chivalry coming out of this digital age when texting is the way of getting the door for someone, emails are the little hand-written notes from a secret valentine, when adding one as a friend on Facebook, is the new, “OK, you’re cool enough to join my crew.”

The little personal niceties are slowing diminishing in this “crack-berry/ iPhone” world. It’s sad. In the movie, Mary shares with her colleagues at the magazine, “Things have changed. People don’t just meet organically anymore. If I want to make myself more attractive to the opposite sex, I don’t go get a new haircut – I update my profile. That’s just how it is.” It’s true for us experimenting in the online dating world. Also, for those connecting with others on Facebook, or who wish to impress his/her former high school classmates. However, too often there are those that feel safe hiding behind their computer, posting messages that are not true, or sharing pictures that are ten years old. That’s just not right and it makes it harder for one to trust the virtual world without first-hand experience, or encounters with others in the real world. Meanwhile in the movie, the guy Mary meets online turns out to be a phony. Later she is pleasantly surprised by turning off the technology. It’s ironic when she uses it first, she doesn’t have much success. However, when she puts down the phone, turns off the computer and meets someone face-to-face, she finds love.

Don’t get me wrong, I find the entertainment through the use of Facebook, the texting between friends can be fun at times too, and online dating has some interesting experiences. Yet, sometimes I just have to sit and laugh not taking things so seriously. I have friends that obsess over the amount of text and what to interpret by each message. OMG, he didn’t text me back, or respond to my Facebook post! What happened to the day of picking up the phone, or meeting someone at a local café to talk face-to-face? We are becoming a fickle society that doesn’t want to invest the effort anymore. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. That is, REAL ACTIONS in the REAL WORLD. In a recent interview about the movie, Drew Barrymore explains, “I’m totally confused by technology in dating. It’s so hard. It’s new; we’re in a new phase of history. It’s uncharted waters and we’re all figuring it out together.”

 

I’ve learned to value the interpersonal connections so much more with the influx of technology and social media. Today, I seek the sounds of sharing a laugh, the touch of one’s hand, the smells of the environment, the engaged conversations with others have come to have great meaning. It’s scary how quickly this world is changing and a time when the phrase “reach out and touch someone,” maybe becoming a thing of the past.

Honey, if he isn’t taking the time to treat you with respect in person, recall the things important to you in person, invite you out in person just to have someone close by to listen what’s on your mind ….HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!